Doubled Sided, Double Sided

Here I sit, 4:30 New years Eve, contemplating all that has taken place in my life over the last 12 months. I've just turned down an invite to my sisters house due to the snow and road conditions....not to mention that I have to work in the morning...and now she's pissed...it isn't the first and it defiantly wont be the last. As i sit in front of the laptop plugging away I realize that sometimes others just can't see your side of the story...and in fact there are two sides to every story. We all have our perception of what occurred. You and I could be standing on a side walk and watch an accident happen...we may both agree that the yellow car ran the red light but other such details will, in fact differ. This is the same in life, yes my sister and I will agree that I bailed on her party, but to me I did so because I don't like driving in the snow and 5:30 is going to come very early in this house. She on the other hand sees it as me, being a selfish bitch and ditching her and the roads being a little slippery isn't an excuse...blah blah blah...you get the point.

I am now analyzing some of the situations that have presented them selves over the last 12 months and I guess you could say that to those too, there is a second side.



I've had some issues with my in-laws for some time....that's a whole other blog ....and I am starting to see that maybe were a tad negative to them...but they didn't even try to attempt to see our side....my sister in-law decided to rear her ugly head into the whole mess and stake her alliance..(nope DW and I wont be safe at tribal council)..in effect she has now pissed off her nephews...my boyz.

As a family, we purchased gifts for all the cousins and grandparents, they were delivered and arrived well before Christmas....a week later, not a thank you nor for that fact a gift from said sister-in-law for the boys. I could handle this in SO many different ways, and trust me, it is eating away at me as I type, but I have decided no to do a damn thing. I will continue to acknowledge her children at birthday and Christmas even if she chooses not to reciprocate. To her, the "injustice" that occurred is punishable to all four. And she has never herd the other side.

We are all guilty of forming opinions and finger pointing without the whole tale being told...maybe this is my lesson to be learned,.... to have compassion for those who are too ignorant to see how their actions may injure others....and just maybe to try and see their side of the story.

The Monkey On My Back

We all have our addictions...some far more worse than others....I have Facebook.

Enough said right? Why is it that i just cannot get enough of that sight.....it's not like it's mentally stimulating, or even thought provoking...and this hogwash about it being a social networking site....my left foot it is! it is a powerful, highly addictive time waster. I am it's biggest fan and I know i need to cut back.

Facebook is the first thing I check in the morning and usually set a status update....for those of you who don't know what that is, it is when you let everyone know what you are thinking, feeling or doing. Mine, are sometimes witty, sarcastic and even just dumb...I try to stay far away from the name calling and innuendos that some people like to fling...never naming names but enough info that the person being attacked knows it's them. I am not saying I've never participate in that kind of behaviour, I just do it a bit more tactfully....yes i can be tactful. Facebook is also the first thing I log into when I get home in the afternoon. I just gotta know what people are doing...see if anyone has posted any new pictures, new statuses, any fried request waiting....I just have to look! I do stay away form most of the applications and such but I need to enquire it at lest every couple of hours when I am at home. Now that I have a laptop it is even worse. (thanks Honey)

I figured, if i stopped playing the games and doing the quizzes I wouldn't be on it as much...which is some what true, but it has now led me down a path where I have to check it constantly. I need to see what my "friends" are up to and what is going on in their worlds. Has my life gotten so pathetic that logging on to Facebook gives me a high?

An old acquaintance of mine once said "Nothing good comes from Facebook". To correct him, yes some good things have come from Facebook. i have found some long lost friends, been able to keep in touch with some others more regularly. There is dark side but we are all still alive and no one is hurt but some skeletons have found a way back to life, thanks to Facebook.

Really, of the almost 300 friends i have on Facebook, not many of them are "true friends". My "friend List" is mainly mad up of people I went to high school with, some collage chums, some of them are family members and even past and present co-workers but only a small hand full would I call in he middle of the night to bail me out of jail....and to tell you the truth only one or two out of that handful would answer their phone.

I guess Facebook is my opportunity to be a voyeur into others lives....even if it is just a small sample. I am still not sure how to fix the fix but cold turkey is not for me....maybe that monkey on my back isn't so heavy after all...

No New Years Resolution For Me

I could sit hear and bore you with the dictionary's definition of "resolution" and believe me there are a few.....but no, I thought I would enlighten you on some of my attempted but failed resolutions and why I will no longer pursue one, not his year nor any other year, ever again.

Over the course of my life I have vowed to follow my resolution through to the end....lets just say I don't think I know what the finish looks like. Everything from quit smoking, dieting and working out, being more charitable (the good old standbys) to the no more dating creeps...okay so that one I did win with 'cause ended up with a great guy....getting rid off bad friends, to be a better person...sorry I am what I am.... you get the picture...we've all made them, not all of us completed them.

We all have things we want to change, stop, quit and even alter....you can pick any day of the year to begin your transformation why not pick today or tomorrow...no I'm not trying to be a procrastinator...even though I am very good at it....I'm just saying that we don't need to use New Years Day as that one day a year to start to make an adjustment to our lives or lifestyle.

Why should we set ourselves up for such failure by setting, sometimes, such unattainable goals and making them public to people. Talk about a punch at the old self esteem...Why can't we, as human beings just be happy with who we are and if a change has to be made, just make it quietly, as in internalize your change and how you are going to do it...not announce it to the world.....

I understand the reason why people pick New Years day as the day to start their "change", but really any day you begin is a good thing. We have enough demands on ourselves from our work and home life as it is...you don't need the guilt from not attaining your New Year's resolution too.

This year, any change i want to make is going to be for me, by me, on my own time, with a road map to get me to my objective, 'cause this year I will be a winner and a better person for it too.

A New Blog Is Born.....

I have been working on this blog for some time...well at least the lay out...and I just hadn't got around to making a post.....I was going to wait until the new year but heck what's a week?

Welcome to Pugsley's Plights......not sure what is going to happen around here...but you never know...as you can see in the banner a plight is a condition, state, or situation, especially an unfavorable or unfortunate one: Well lets just say I find my self in all sort of unfortunate or unfavorable situations, weather it be at work at home or while having fun...I hope to share some of these adventures with you and I'm glad you decided to come along for the ride......warning....you better fasten your seat belts and hang on tight........