Doubled Sided, Double Sided

Here I sit, 4:30 New years Eve, contemplating all that has taken place in my life over the last 12 months. I've just turned down an invite to my sisters house due to the snow and road conditions....not to mention that I have to work in the morning...and now she's pissed...it isn't the first and it defiantly wont be the last. As i sit in front of the laptop plugging away I realize that sometimes others just can't see your side of the story...and in fact there are two sides to every story. We all have our perception of what occurred. You and I could be standing on a side walk and watch an accident happen...we may both agree that the yellow car ran the red light but other such details will, in fact differ. This is the same in life, yes my sister and I will agree that I bailed on her party, but to me I did so because I don't like driving in the snow and 5:30 is going to come very early in this house. She on the other hand sees it as me, being a selfish bitch and ditching her and the roads being a little slippery isn't an excuse...blah blah blah...you get the point.

I am now analyzing some of the situations that have presented them selves over the last 12 months and I guess you could say that to those too, there is a second side.



I've had some issues with my in-laws for some time....that's a whole other blog ....and I am starting to see that maybe were a tad negative to them...but they didn't even try to attempt to see our side....my sister in-law decided to rear her ugly head into the whole mess and stake her alliance..(nope DW and I wont be safe at tribal council)..in effect she has now pissed off her nephews...my boyz.

As a family, we purchased gifts for all the cousins and grandparents, they were delivered and arrived well before Christmas....a week later, not a thank you nor for that fact a gift from said sister-in-law for the boys. I could handle this in SO many different ways, and trust me, it is eating away at me as I type, but I have decided no to do a damn thing. I will continue to acknowledge her children at birthday and Christmas even if she chooses not to reciprocate. To her, the "injustice" that occurred is punishable to all four. And she has never herd the other side.

We are all guilty of forming opinions and finger pointing without the whole tale being told...maybe this is my lesson to be learned,.... to have compassion for those who are too ignorant to see how their actions may injure others....and just maybe to try and see their side of the story.