I got a call today from an old friend. Not that I have known the person a long time, but someone who I had once been close with. She and her family moved about 120 kilometers away a few years back. It was very nice to catch up and chat with her. As we updated each other on the goings on in our lives, I realized that it was truly my fault that things kinda fell by the way side. She honestly tried and tried to keep the friendship going, but I would always find an excuse or not answer the phone, almost like I had given up...like what's the point, they are far away.
It is difficult to have a friendship that is a bit distant and I have a couple, they take a lot of time and effort. The sad thing is, our husbands knew each other and our children are the same age. It was almost like out of sight out of mind.
I guess you could say some times too, I felt that they were too good for us, you know better off than us and that maybe someday that would come between us. It did, not from them, from me. My own insecurities about our financial standing, and house and what ever else,came between us and an a great set of friends. I know they never judged us nor looked down at us. She is a genuine person and i failed to see that all those years ago. She, still sees the good in all, and hopes that we can come see them soon, and was happy to have gotten a hold of me, just as I was happy that she tried.
I hope to make a conscious effort to become a better friend, not just to her, but to all of my friends. I seem to, at times, put more effort in to one relationship than others. I look forward to getting reacquainted with some old friends and improving the relationships I have with others.
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